“365” whoa that’s a huge number. Exactly what I thought when my mentor recommended I dedicate 365 days to myself. I also thought it sounded selfish due to the fact I have a daughter to think about too.. But hey I took the challenge and this is how I did it.
Make a list of things you want to accomplish for yourself within a year (365 days). This was my list:
- Reconnect my Faith (Went back to church)
- Break bad habits
- Get mentally and physically fit
- Set new rules and standards for myself
- Take mini vacations
- Get out of debt
- Address and accept my past
- Love myself first
Why did I do this?
So after my heartbreak I was a mess, my life was out of control. I was all over the place, I felt as if I had no purpose and I didn’t like the person I was becoming. I seeked counseling, but really I just wanted someone to hear my out. My times at counseling I was able to hear myself and my mentor allowed me to see what I needed in my life to get back on my feet. I took notes of my negatives and transformed them to something positive. I realized I had to take control of myself again, I had to focus on me before walking into another persons life. It wouldn’t be fair to let others carry my load of problems… So I dedicated 365 days (a year) to myself, to fix me, to be happy and to enjoy things alone or with my daughter. Along the way I overcame a few fears…
How to stay on track?
Make a reasonable list
Post it somewhere you would see it when you first wake up and through out the day
(Mine was my bathroom mirror… and a picture that related to my goals in my car..)
Check your list off (this will make you feel accomplished)
Think positive, keep trying
Try a different approach each day
Remember why you are doing this (it is for you!)
Results happen over time, not over night. Work hard, stay consistent and be patient.
Ok it’s now 365 days after….. What do I do next?
Look back a year ago. Are you happy with who you are today? Have you checked your list off? Scan through your pictures do you see a different person, do you feel accomplished, do you feel your purpose now? Are you ready to be in another persons’ life? Are you ready to have another person in your life? Did you let go of that old you? Are you ready to live a different life now? Most importantly have you forgiven yourself and loved yourself more than anyone else could? Ask yourself these questions and determine where you want to be.